Do You Admire Yourself?

Little girl and mirrorIf you asked me, “Do you admire yourself?” I would most likely say no.

If you asked, “Do you admire parts of yourself?” I would say, definitely yes.

That’s because there are always parts of ourselves that we admire, whether we allow ourselves to notice it or not. If you’re finding it hard to notice the good qualities about yourself that you admire, I have a shortcut for you. It has to do with learning the hidden gifts that can come with bad feelings.

Let’s say that someone does something really, really inconsiderate. You get infuriated. How dare that person act in such a despicable way? You hate the fact that there are such nasty people in the world. You hate that terrible person. You hate it when stuff like that happens to you, and you don’t deserve it.

Publius Terentius Afer, who lived around 160 years BC, wrote, “I am human, and nothing of that which is human is alien to me.”

I got his quote from Maya Angelou, and she thinks it means that each human is capable of doing what any other human does. We have all the same components, and no matter how awful it is, we’re actually capable of doing it.

I agree. I think that we blame others for being what they are when we have no idea what caused them to be that way. Even though that nasty, inconsiderate person is really behaving badly, you’re actually capable of behaving just as badly. You’re just choosing not to. In my view, the anger that you feel points to a clue about something admirable in you.

I believe that for at least some of us, the degree of outrage you feel points to how hard you’ve been working to avoid being that bad person with the bad behavior. You try to control those negative behaviors in yourself. If you’ve spent a lifetime inculcating good habits, patience, and manners, you’ll probably be really annoyed by someone who just doesn’t care and spews his or her nastiness on everybody carelessly.

So go ahead and feel your anger. You probably won’t see the gift it’s going to leave you right away. Let it run its course and try not to amplify it by engaging in a big fight. Eventually the anger will flow back away from you like a wave because that’s what emotions do. Just don’t forget to pick up the beautiful lesson that anger has left for you like a shell washed in on the wave.

It’s the gift of knowledge about yourself and knowledge of your own values. Before you go on with your life and just forget about the whole incident, remember to say to yourself that you’re grateful for your efforts and achievements in behaving well, even though you have the same feelings that nasty people do from time to time.

You’re probably the kind of person who consciously tries not to hurt others. You monitor what you say, you try to see things from the other person’s point of view, and you try to word things in a way that doesn’t offend. If you see someone suffering, you try to find a word of encouragement or leave a nice card on their desk when they’re not looking.

And that’s really a sweet trait that deserves admiration.

Experiencing that bad behavior and the anger you felt can serve to enlighten you about the effort you put forth every day to create more peace in the world. Admire that trait in yourself. Give yourself a little credit for not behaving like the person who just acted so badly. Take the time to appreciate yourself for not reacting with the same idiotic display that the other person dumped on you.

And remember that the more you can appreciate the good traits in yourself (and other nice people) when you see them, the better your life will be over time.

🙂

 

 

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When is it Good to be Sad?

IMG_20140309_171438I woke up feeling sad today. Now, if you’ve read any of my posts, you know I stand for happiness. You know I believe that happiness is not only beneficial to you, but to everyone around you and the world at large. (Happy people don’t start wars, do they?)

Happy people inspire other people to be happy. Happy people work together more easily and team up to find positive solutions. Happy people are productive — they’re not carrying around the baggage that weighs down a lot of other people.

And, I do believe that opportunities come more easily to happy people.

Now, I did wake up feeling sad today, but set about my morning routine as usual — feeding the dogs, taking them out for a walk, taking out the trash, etc. It rained pretty hard almost all day yesterday, and even though the sky was full of clouds, there was still bright sunshine all over the place this morning. In fact, it was refreshing.

Moods are like waves — they come and go. When you’re stuck in sadness for prolonged periods of time, it can affect your health and your interactions with people. In turn, those effects start to weave together in the attitude of sadness, and eventually that can create a whole life of sadness.

I wasn’t bummed out by being sad, because I know that emotions are like waves. I also know, now, that there are always underlying vibes associated with each emotion, and understanding emotions are the key to overcoming chronic depression.

Here’s an example. The first time I went skydiving, I was thrilled and excited. If there wasn’t any fear whatsoever involved in skydiving, I might have felt happy, calm, peaceful, appreciative of the beauty of the sky, comforted by the competence of the teachers, pilot, etc. There were lots of things about that drop zone that were comforting. But my primary emotion was excitement. Excitement is a mix of joy and anxiety. It’s fun, don’t get me wrong! But when I started learning how to analyze emotions, I started becoming aware of the underside of an emotion. Really thrilling experiences have a kind of tingling feeling underneath the joy of the experience. In this case, that tingly feeling was just a touch of fear. I had to appreciate the danger of extreme sports to fully experience the thrill of being able to participate.

Let me give you another sport that is not extreme: playing marbles. When you compete in a game of marbles with somebody, you’re probably not going to experience the same thrill that you’re going to get during your first skydive. Now, if there’s a monetary prize of $1 million, you probably will feel that thrill, because the stakes are higher.

This morning, I woke up sad. But at the core of that sadness, there was a peace. I realized that like the weather outside, the sadness has a certain cleansing power associated with it, and will blow away like the dark clouds did. I realize that all the emotions are necessary to have a full life.

While I used to be a chronic suicidal depressive, I have little to no fear of returning to that state. I have too much information now. I know so much more than I ever did about emotions and how they affect the life experience (and why, also).

In short, I was at peace with my sad emotion. I felt no fear around it. Yes, I was sad because of a temporary life condition that is part of my everyday reality, but I have very little fear of the life condition that might have sent me up the wall with anxiety in the past.

So if my sadness is tinged with anxiety, then I can expect more of it, and my emotions will tend to draw me down the path of making mistakes, misreading people, and having accidents.

If my sadness is tinged with peace and understanding, then I know that it’s part of what life has to offer, but I’m not married to it, and therefore it’s of no real concern.

If you have to be sad in life, and I know that sometimes you will be, I pray that your sadness is underlain with peace. I pray that you’ll recognize it as a cloud that’s passing by in the sky, containing its own hidden gift and providing temporary shade or nourishing rain. I pray that you’ll come across the information that I did, information that saved me from a life of anxiety, fear, depression, and endless thoughts of suicide. When you have the knowledge that every emotion has an underlying emotion, I think you’ll find it easier to make peace with your life conditions.

Please comment … let me know if this is helpful or just plain confusing!

🙂

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Writing is Easy for Me — Except Writing for My Own Benefit

cat typingWriting’s always been easy for me, at least since I was a teenager.

Yes, I admit it – I was one of those geeks in the sixth grade who adored diagramming sentences.  (I actually remember someone telling me how much he hated it, and I was amazed.)

I started writing big time when I was between 17 and 18, because I realized that writing was the only way I’d ever be able to squeeze out a whole sentence without getting interrupted.

After that, a whole lot of years passed before I started writing again. At age 39, I started writing a self-published free newsletter dealing with the causes of abuse and trying to draw parallels between different kinds of abuse. In my mind, all abuse stemmed from a common cause, but I couldn’t really articulate what it was. In fact, the newsletter was part of my quest to actually find the common cause. I knew somehow that property abuse, drug abuse, spousal abuse, etc, had a common thread. I just didn’t know what it was. By that time, I’d already been self-abusing, but for some reason I didn’t even think of that. I had just read some research that physical abuse in families escalated at Christmas time, and I wanted to shed some light on that, so a newsletter contributor and I actually made a speech at the Fresno Center for Nonviolence. At that time, I had four jobs, one of which was writing the free newsletter, which obviously paid nothing!hand on mouse

Many, many more years went by. I had gotten some work that actually paid enough that I only needed one job, but continued to work in a second one out of habit, I guess. But the tacky little BS that goes on at work was ticking me off too much. One time, I actually got castigated at work by some supervisors because I was doing the work of three people and apparently they were alarmed because I’d be hard to replace if I ever left. I was thinking, “Why would I ever leave?”

But, instead of praising me for being so efficient, they just blew me away. Within a few weeks, as the BS continued, I stomped out of there in a huff. I didn’t mean to, but I actually left rubber on the driveway after cussing out one of the bosses. (Well, the cussing was on purpose.)

So I went back to college and there I had to write again. I was still good at it, but the college professor pointed out some things that I could improve. At least he acknowledged that I was good, so that made it okay — helpful, in fact.

pencilIn college, I began to focus on writing as an act of communication. What became essential to me was to make sure that someone reading a paper would easily be able to follow every point I made. In college, you’re always supposed to argue for a point of view. To me, the point was not to convince anyone of anything; I just wanted to be so clear that readers would actually understand me.

Now, I do a lot of work as a ghostwriter. This is fun at times — it’s even exhilarating when I’m working with the right person and we mesh. Other times, I feel like I’m wasting my time writing copy for someone else’s business. But that’s where my trick knee kicks in — I find it really hard to write when the likely result will be to improve my own life. It’s very easy for me to create for someone else, and to see the value in someone else.

I guess I’m learning in my old age, because life has become too painful not to. Being broke and trying to squash myself into a pigeonhole someone else designed is not serving me. As the years roll by, being in bad shape financially, mentally, and every other way is not helping me reach the people I would really want to help. And it doesn’t keep the dogs fed.

I was listening to a TEDxTalk the other day, and the guy said that one in four people in developed countries would suffer from Depressive Illnesses in their lifetime. That is horrific.blurry wave

I’m not always in a happy, ecstatic frame of mind, and I rarely have a suicidal moment anymore. When I do, I realize that it’s a wave. Trying to fight a wave and beat it back with a stick will never work. I just let it come. There are times I’ve been known to just lie on the couch and let myself feel bad for whatever time it takes. I think that resisting the onset of the wave makes it come more often. Eventually, life is going to bring you some reason to get up again. You either fall asleep and wake up, the doorbell rings, you have to eat, or something like that.

The wave recedes by itself. And if it hasn’t receded yet, you can always go back to the couch.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I’ll think of some weird, very funny, unrelated thing that happened while in the throes of depression. Or I’ll hear something on the radio. Sometimes I’ll bust out laughing. I wasn’t always able to do that. I think I’m free to do it now because I know that the pain is transitory. I know that when good things bubble up in my consciousness, it’s okay not to resist them. I give myself permission to laugh.

When you fight back at a wave of depression, you just magnify it, because that’s what you’re thinking of.

When you give yourself permission to feel good, you allow Mother Nature to bring you back into balance.

Obviously, I would never let my dogs starve while I’m suffering on the couch. That’s why it’s helpful to have someone that you’re taking care of — someone who won’t give you a lot of crap by telling you why you shouldn’t be depressed!

The people who try to help you are often the ones who make it worse. The dogs never say anything like, “You should be happy!” as if there’s something wrong with you for being the authentic person you are. They never say, “Get up, you lazy bum!” either.

red punching bag resizedWe really believe in fighting in this society. We really believe that the best way to solve a problem is to put on boxing gloves and come out swinging. We really believe that the best way to get someone to do something is to just keep nagging or just try knocking them down.

I’m not suggesting that you “owe something” to someone simply because they’re depressed. I’m just saying that kicking them around won’t make them happy. It might make them ACT like they’re happy so you’ll stop kicking them, but that’s about it.

I think that life just puts choices in front of you.

I think it’s okay to choose to be unproductive or down on yourself when you’re truly being obliterated by a wave.  I think that you’ll decide when and if to get up and try again, and the impulse will come from within. It will feel right. It won’t take will power. It won’t hurt. And it won’t be to please someone else.

Trust your inner voice.

The secret is that even people with Major Depressive Disorder laugh once in a while. Even suicidal people like to pet their animals, watch a favorite TV show, or taste something good. In each and every day, there is something that you smile at or about … and it isn’t forced.

The secret is to amplify that laughter or good feeling, instead of SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURESwasting your time trying to fight the bad.

So why am I writing this now, instead of writing for someone else who’ll pay me to do it?

It’s because Life called me. Life put questions in front of me, and made me want to figure things out. That impulse to diagram a sentence and figure out what makes it work is the same impulse that makes me want to figure out what’s going on with myself, with people, with animals, and with the earth. Not in a blaming way, and not in a way that puts me down or puts someone else down — just out of curiosity. And the older I get, the more curious I get. So I’m still trying. Still trying to figure it all out.

And sometimes I just feel like writing what I want to say, whether or not it brings in the coin. 🙂

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Should we Stamp Out Bullying?

angry-woman drawingI’ve heard a lot in the media lately about fighting bullying; combating bullying; and stamping out bullying. That’s a relief on one hand, because when and where I grew up, bullying seemed to be cool, and everyone just wanted to get on the side of the bully.

And now I see people taking the opposite point of view, which is a relief, because anyone who’s been bullied can tell you — it’s not pretty.

From from my vantage point now, I can see that this languaging around bullying is probably going to have short-term value but none in the long run. These bullies are not actually in a good place, you know.

If someone can only feel good by beating someone else down, then beating them down in return won’t be sustainable. You can’t beat somebody into a feeling of peace and acceptance of their fellow man.

I’m not suggesting that we condone or allow the behavior. In fact, I think we need to teach bullies that they are NOT their behavior. There is more to them than their behavior.

Let’s look at the analogy of fighting fire with fire. It works. It works really, really well in some circumstances. But eventually, you’re either going to have to use water or you’re going to have to dig a control line, which is a really, really wide strip of deforested land that prevents spread. Eventually, the fire burns out on its own.

For most of us, we automatically dig those control lines around people we don’t like. We just don’t call them, hang out with them, or do business with them. When we try to change them, we get bitten. When we try to argue with them, we find out that they are better fighters than we are — more practice.

On the other hand, if we try to soothe them or placate them, which is analogous to pouring water on the flames, bullies take it to mean that we approve of or enjoy their bullying. Yes, they are that crazy. So most people choose to dig a control line instead of pouring soothing water on the fire.

There are some people who are wonderful at helping bullies connect the dots. They are very talented at making bullies see that they have more to offer than destructive behavior, and also that they’ve harmed a lot of people and that in the long run, they’d be happier if they were just … well, happy. Happy people don’t bully.

But the discussion wouldn’t be complete unless we brought in the other side, which is that bullied people tend to become likely to meet up with more bullies. These are the people I like to work with, because that’s where I used to be.

And, if you’ve been bullied, it’s not your fault. You didn’t cause it. Only the bully lifted his or her arms to hit, or his or her voice to demean. That’s their side of the street.

The point is, do you want to keep attracting bullies into your life? If you still keep finding these people in your life, despite doing everything all the self-help books are telling you, then you just haven’t found the secret that it took me 59 years to find out about.

Keep seeking, because there is help for you.crying grey hair

Did you like this post? Please let me know – it keeps me going. And please feel free to let me know what you’ve already tried in the comments, and what’s working for you now.

🙂

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Did I Create This … ?

head coldYesterday, I was so deathly ill that I couldn’t get out of bed. I caused it.

I was so stressed out about something that I literally made myself sick. Granted, the subject was deep, so any thought about something that cuts that deep to the bone is going to have reverberations.  It involved someone who means the world to me, and it involved some guilt over doing the wrong thing, even though I was trying so hard to do the right thing.

Has that ever happened to anyone else?

Anyway, the bottom line was that I felt like a heel, and I couldn’t stop thinking of what I could do to make it up, but what was done was done.  And I was carrying a lot of fear about the subject, and guess what? When you feel afraid, really afraid, you’re more likely to cause a total collapse than you would be if you felt strong, clear, and capable.

So I had to put off other work and sleep half the day. That doesn’t make it easier, but in truth, problems like overwork pale in comparison to problems like messing up one of the most important relationships in your life.

I took advantage of modern medicine and took lots of Vitamin C, used a humidifier, got those tissues with lotion in them, and just generally admitted to myself that I created this illness and that this, too, shall pass.sick guy in hospital

Now back to fixing my side of the relationship…

Hope I have better news for your tomorrow!!

🙂

 

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I Love to Imagine…

12 Sunrise & Palms Ocean Shores 31March2015In the mornings, I love to lie in bed and imagine for awhile. Sometimes I wake up with fears and worries on my mind (like at 3 AM).  If I can’t go back to sleep, I soothe myself with something fairly mind-numbing, like a funny YouTube video or a game of solitaire on my cell phone. I know that it’s good for me to search for ways to feel better, even if someone else looking over my shoulder would accuse me of being lazy or escapist.

I don’t care. I know what suicidal feels like.  I know that lying in bed and playing solitaire is a step up from lying in bed thinking about frightening thoughts or getting up and screaming.

After I’ve distracted myself a little from what I’m worried about, I’ll close my eyes and let sleep come if it will, but if it doesn’t, that’s okay too. I don’t feel obligated to get up and work on my “problems.”  If I attack a problem in a petrified state of mind, I’m not clearly thinking and I might even make it worse. So I let myself dream, whether I’m in a good or bad state of mind.

And this is what happens…

Today, in the process of simply lying there with my eyes closed, letting thoughts flow through my brain without paying any attention, I got a very inspiring thought. You see, the problem that was weighing me down and causing me so much grief somehow morphed into something inspiring. Over the course of 3 am – 6:30 am, I began to realize that not only do I have this huge desire to achieve something that had seemed impossible, but that I have this ability to do the thing I want so much. And that means that I get to feel the feelings of gratification that I so much want to have (instead of my traditional feelings of angst).

So imagination works for me. I’m not living the wonderful reality I just created in my head, but I know that if I keep imagining it, and do it with such clarity that I can already taste it, I’ll get it.  This is what fun I can have. This is how proud I can be. This is how free I can be.

I love to imagine…

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I Really, Really Want to…

SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURESMore than anything else, I really, really, really, really, really want to pay my own bills right now. I really, really want to make my own customers happy. I really, really want to pay Uncle Sam. I really, really want to do good work and give my customers the speed and attention they want. And I want to make my neighbor happy, who also happens to be my BFF, because I’m doing her a favor right now and I want her to be delighted. I want to be a good pet owner, good homeowner, yadda, yadda, yadda.  Overwhelmed.

And, I really, really, really want to have the time to do my own creative writing, each and every day.

So here is the conundrum — how do I please everybody and still have time for me, and why do I even want to please other people if they’re not paying me money?

Well, in my case, here is why: I want to be happy!

I don’t know if this will help you when you’re feeling overwhelmed and out of time, but I just devised this process today for getting my own head together. I was feeling so pressured to do so much work in such a short period of time, and I really want to do it, because I’d love to have money coming in…but then I have to ignore my pets, ignore my friends and neighbors, forget about writing my own stuff, and have a life that sucks!  I couldn’t figure out how to get it all done, much less retain a good life.

I realize that some people don’t feel the same way I do about bills. They think, “If only I didn’t have to pay these bills,” or maybe, “How can I get rid of these bills?” I think that the best way to get rid of them is to just pay them all off, and my big motivation to take on more work is that I THINK I WILL BE HAPPIER IF I HAVE PLENTY OF CASH FLOW TO TAKE CARE OF ALL OF THE BILLS EASILY.

I then realized that I was caught in a chain reaction.  I couldn’t see how everything could work out the way I wanted, and I know from prior experience that YOU CAN’T HAVE THE OUTCOME YOU WANT UNLESS YOU CAN VISUALIZE IT.

So I drew a big picture and in the middle, I wrote: “Be happy.” After all, that is my bottom-line intention and desired destination.

Then I drew little circles all around the inside so I could write my “To Do” list in there. I know if I achieve all these things that I want to do, I’ll be happier. So I have to put my “To Do’s” in such a way that I realize that doing them is not a chore, because they are all steps to becoming happier.

So here is the template — you’ll find your own “To Do’s” to write into the little circles around the edges.SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURES

Have fun with it and realize that there is nothing you want to do, be, or have in this world that doesn’t share a common destination: happiness.

Love,

Anjelica

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Do You Value Your Time?

When you’re depressed, you don’t value your own time.  What you value is: other people’s opinions about you.

Let’s say you want to take off of work and go horseback riding one day. Do you  do it? No, because someone else might accuse you of being lazy. Or cruel to horses. Or bad with money.

Let’s say you want to invite some people over to your place.  Do you do it?  No, because you’re afraid that you don’t have enough to offer. They may not really want to come. Your house might be ugly. They might not enjoy it. Some might be brutally honest.

Let’s say that you want to change jobs.  Do you do it?  No, because someone else might criticize your choice. You might not get hired. You might get fired. They might go bankrupt. It might be worse than the last job.

In short, you’re living in fear.

You value the opinion of others.  (You’re too worthless to deserve to pay attention to your own.)  But you’re in an impossible position, because each person you’re trying to impress could have a different opinion of what you should be, do, or have.

When you’re as depressed as I was, you suffer through life.  Life seems interminably long. You wish it was over.

You don’t value your time; you hate your time.

You walk a tightrope of not offending anybody, afraid to fall off.

Indeed … when people are offended, they can get nasty.  They can fire you, hate you, attack you, sue you, embarrass you, beat you, turn friends against you … right?

If you’re trying not to offend anyone out of fear of repercussions, you’re living in a kind of prison and you feel helpless to get out.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you felt self-confident? If you knew you could do just about anything you wanted, and not have to worry so much?

That life is available to you, but when you’re deep in fear or depression, you can’t see it from where you are.

In fact, it might be just one area of life where you feel hopeless – you’ve got great relationships, but you can’t get your financial life together.  You’ve got great health, but you’re incredibly disorganized.  You’re doing great with money, but your relationships weigh you down.

The weird thing is that offensive people often do better than those of us who try so hard to please others!

That’s probably because they see nothing wrong in whatever they do.  They expect to succeed. They assume that their work is better than everyone else’s. They self-promote shamelessly. If they have bad relationships, it’s always the other person’s fault. They make friends with the very nicest people, because only the very nicest would like someone like that. They have to pick really nice friends, because they could never be friends with someone as offensive as they are.

So from your perspective, it might look like all the nasty people get the best things in life.

You might say, “But I don’t want to be like that! I’d rather have the bad relationships, bad health, bad bank account!  I’d rather die than model myself after that person.”

Right on. You don’t have to.

When you’re depressed, you can’t see the people who are successful and very nice. They’re out there, and they probably like you, but you won’t be able to connect with them for long.  It will look like lack of time keeps you from them, or lack of money, or lack of connections, or lack of sophistication, or lack of: (fill in your own.)

But, trust me. It’s your depression. That’s the primary reason you can’t get anything you want.  Work on that, and things will gradually turn around. They won’t turn around overnight, but your ability to handle whatever happens will steadily increase.

At least that’s how it’s happening for me.

When you ease your depression, you enjoy your life more.  When you enjoy your life more, you enjoy your time more.  When you enjoy your time more, you value your time more.

You won’t be as likely to squander it trying to make everyone else happy.  But they’ll be happier if you are.

🙂

Anjelica

P.S. I wrote the book on how to release depression and start to feel good again. You can read it here:  www.feelinggoodtoday.info

It’s free.

Or you can buy it on Amazon.com for $3.99 here: http://goo.gl/qTjMHl

Please let me know how  you like it – or if you don’t like it, you can tell me that, too.

Also, tell me about your time. How do you spend it, how do you like it, how would you like to spend it?

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Do You Have Time to be Inspired?

I woke up today and got a phone call that completely inspired me. It was from a friend, and she and I have been hatching an idea to bring our joys to TV. We had such a great call that I plunged in and put a few hours of work into the project regardless of anything else I had to do.

In the past, working my inspiration would have been the LAST thing on my priorities. Why?

Because in the past, I was living in fear and terrified that some significant other would find out, cast judgment, and make my life a living hell. This fear was based on past life experiences, and had nothing to do with finding my dream, developing the person I really was, or embracing my passions. It was simply based on avoiding pain.

The trouble with avoiding pain is that you end up like a ship captain whose only focus is to avoid rocks. So the ship captain might steer as close to the rocks as possible so he can see them and knows exactly where they are. He might run aground anyway, because he’s tried so hard to avoid the rocks that he put himself very close to them.

Or, the captain can steer straight down the middle of the river, trying to be as far from the rocks as possible, but then he never gets to land anywhere because he’s afraid of getting close to the shoreline. Eventually, he’s going to run out of fuel and supplies. The ship ends up drifting wherever it gets carried by the current, and runs aground.

This is what I call being stuck.

Following your inspirations is the key to getting unstuck. Placing value on that emotion of enthusiasm, eagerness, and high energy actually steers you to your dream life like a plane on autopilot will keep you on track. You still have to land it, though.

On this path, I want to know how to master my life, including my time, and as usual, I reached out to one of my favorite people, Kameron Geroge, about time management. If I’m really competent at managing my time, I have time to be inspired, too.

I hope you enjoy the video as much as I did. Please share any timesaving tips you have below.

Kam mentioned a terrific book that he reads every single day. Here is a link to it on Amazon.com if you’d like to check it out:

The Magic (The Secret)

Here’s to you inspiration and plenty of free time!

Please feel free to comment below, too.

🙂

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If You and I Have a Bad Connection, Then I’m Going to Have to Hang Up

rsz_bad_phone_call_with_editsWhat was that?  You say that I don’t fit … what a person should…  Boy, good thing we have our separate…. What?  Oh, that guy’s letting you down because …?

Oh, wow, I can tell you’re upse… What?  Wow, that’s too bad.  Ummm… Who’s fault, did you say?  Oh, yeah, I know  him… Oh, well, my experience with him is a lot dif…. You think that if he just did what you tell him, things would be bett…?  Oh, sorry, go ahead.

Wow, the school system is … Well, I’m sure there are good individ… Oh.  Oh… Oh, okay.  You could try…  Oh, too corrupted.  I see. What about the teacher?  Oh … her too…

Well, on a brighter note, I’ve been … oh, your wife?  Oh, that’s too bad… hmm. Hmmm.  Oh, I don’t think she’s a bad person, just … Oh. Oh, sorry.  Sorry.  No, I didn’t mean to interrupt…

Oh, it’s just that I wanted to share this great … what? You’re busy?  Oh, sorry.  Right.  Okay. Yes, I hear ya.  Hmmm.  I thought he was your best frien…  What???  I always thought he was very nice… Oh.  No, I don’t think I’m being naïve, I just … Well, you never know, I suppose.

Listen, I really want to share this … what?  The government?  Oh, I’m sure they do the best they … No, I don’t think they’re perf… No, nobody’s perfect, of course…..

Did you file that form in time?  No?  … Oh, not your fault…right, I see…

Maybe next time you could… Oh, no I’m not implying…

Thanks, I think that I do have talent in… oops, sorry!  Interrupted.  I do the best …Oh.  Oh.  Oh, well… No, I’m not lashing … oh….  That’s not what I … Sorry, just want to keep pea…

You say I’m a … what? Oh, that’s not a very nice thing to …

Okay, okay. I’ll let you talk.

Oh, that’s too bad.  Right.

Corruption again…

This might help!  I went to this fabul…oh.  Who?  Your boss?  Oh….

That’s a pickle.

Me?  I’m not … what?

… Wait a second, I really don’t think it’s my fault you’re … oh, okay. I see what you mean…

But that’s not…

Hey, what?  Say again?  I think we have a bad connection.  Sorry, I can’t hear what you … who you really are…

I’m getting static.

What?

Oh, no…

I’m hanging up.

Bye.

Whew.  THAT was a pain…

God, I’m really in a bad mood.

Makes you want to scream!

Let me feel the quiet.

I thought things were going pretty well today.

But that just ruined my mood.

I know that I need to feel better.

My feelings affect my outcome.

Man, it’s really hard to get over this … oops! There’s the phone again!

Oh, no need to answer.

Bad connection.

Let me look for my IDEAS JAR.  Oh, there it is!

Pick a 3×5 card….

Oh, “Listen to ‘Happy!’”  I love that song.

Happy Thumbs up

Let’s see, put it on … warm up the computer.

Now – click on YouTube.

And …

Oh, that’s better!

I love it!

The day’s getting better already!

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