If you’re seeking happiness, let me suggest that it is slippery, like soap.
If it slips away, don’t blame yourself for losing it. There are going to be lots of moments like that. Sometimes, you’ve got to just face the fact that you’re feeling miserable and that there is nothing you can do about it at present.
But, just like soap that slips away in the shower, happiness is never lost for long if you know that all you have to do is look for it. So after you’ve had your miserable episode, let yourself find happiness again. It really isn’t that difficult when you get into the practice.
I used to spend hours, weeks, and years analyzing my problems. I went to a lot of therapists and most of them were terrific. But analysis did not always bring the happiness that I was seeking. If you’re in the discovery stage and it feels good to dig up old memories that answer your questions about why you are so screwed up, then it’s great. But once you figure it out, isn’t it a good idea to simply seek happiness?
It can be very easy to find. Right now, I’m sitting outside. It’s a hot day, and I don’t have much of a view, but there is a nice breeze. That breeze reminds me of a fabulous weekend I spent with the Unstoppable Family in a breathtaking environment, brainstorming with entrepreneurs and adventurers from all over the world. Yes, I can easily use the breeze and a simple memory as a fast transport to happiness (now that I know how).
If you find happiness to be as elusive as slippery soap, just use the easiest thing you can find (like thinking of a favorite person, pet, or memory) as the rope that helps you regain the soap. In other words, use a simple tool to help you secure that elusive state of happiness.